Soul mate wanted

[Sward Lockwood]

So where are the "single sailors" who are looking for a soul mate? So many on the single sailors list are couples! I've been sailing for 8 years and would love to find a "soul mate" to enjoy the ride with for long term.

[Gary B]

'Nother problem sailors have - we are spread fairly thin on the ground. So it's hard to 'bump into' someone with the same interests, and it's a turnoff for nonsailors. I've always had the theory that you should 'do what you like to do, and you will find others who like to do that". It's worked somewhat - more through the web than in real life though. And for me at least, it's hard to translate online contacts to real life.

[Gary B]

I've hung around a dating site off and on, and on there I notice that most of the women are looking for men younger than them as well. The most extreme was one woman 55 yrs. old, looking for men '26-46' - ambitious!

Numerous scientific studies have shown that marriages where the partners are 10 years apart or more are the most successful (using a variety of different measures) - even looking at many different cultures. (Also second and third cousins, interestingly enough. We actually have biological reasons for being attracted to not-too-distant relatives.) Note that this works both ways - older woman or older man.

As for 'contented kitties, comfortable in our own domain' - isn't that pretty much the definition of a stray cat? Heck, it was an issue when I first got married in my mid-20s - we recognized that we were both used to living alone and doing things our way.

[sailorgirlca]

haha.....don't need an old tom cat at this stage.......hmmm.....would fare better with a homing pidgeon.....

[Terri]

As for all being "stray cats", I'd have to disagree...some of us are contented kitties, comfortable in our own domain (boat), maybe wishing to find someone with the same passion for sailing but at this age not wanting to just run off with any ole cat. All this and only a half cup of coffee.... going sailing... have a good day all!

[Terri]

Was wondering on the word "attend" to also. :-) Lots of men looking for seatime who can assist with bringing a boat somewhere. If one's looking for a significant other...it would help to be clear about that...saves on the the running circles topsides with a rigging knife in your hands when 75 miles offshore :-))

[sailorgirlca]

Right-on Terri.......wonder what Chris means by "attend"

[Terri]

Sorry Chris can't do that...is in the Woman Code... Section 3567. :-)))

[Terri]

Ahhh..the sailing soulmate.... agree with Zee on the most sailing men looking for ?20 years younger than them..even thos most won't admit it. As for women who love to sail... most who aren't "19" anymore..and are passionate about sailing have bought their own boats.. :-)) ,not wanting to wait ?forever to find a sailing soulmate. Also there's many layers of sailing..lots don't want to abandon their boat, sail on his around the world...giving up all their security... The men should have no problem...by a certain age (yipes) there's suppose to be 7 women for every man!!!! As for their sailing capabilities...not sure....

[zeehag]

i have found most of the sailing men i have met want a younger female. that is fine--there are lots of those. i have work to do on my boat--i sail opb. is not a problem here--i spent a near year in the gulf of mexico sailing and loafing--loved it--this year i am fixing my boat for departure--i hope i am able to find the crew and sail partner i would like to have accompany me....

[Silver girl]

Joe G., who's willing to give up their own helm to crew for another? I am. -- IF the skipper feels the same about me & would be my crew on occasion. I have a choice of boats, the Snipe for which I need a crew except under 7knots and who wants to even sail in that?, Or the Laser which is a solo boat. I much prefer the camaraderie of the Snipe. Within fleets with regional districts and generations of sailing families, there are rarely strangers, just friends we haven't met yet.. Yes I agree with Gary, sailors are self-reliant preferring sound of ocean most of the time.... but it's not just about the boats or the race course the competitors are what makes a regatta fun, not the trophy or lack thereof.